I am sure you have heard this term thrown around a lot being a mom. Maybe you say it yourself or have friends that do.
I hear it all the time from my clients… they just feel GUILTY. They shouldn’t, but it makes them HUMAN. They just care SO much. I truly value and appreciate that they care about their family and they care about their friends.
You miss an important performance at school… GUILT
Your child is home sick with a caregiver…GUILT
Wanting alone time..GUILT
You drop them off to daycare..GUILT
Instead of ignoring these feelings of guilt or dwelling on them - ACKNOWLEDGE them. Feel whatever you are feeling, but don’t stay there forever.
The next time you feel guilty, think about why? What part of you is feeling guilty? You didn’t do anything wrong.
Know that:
Acceptance - Sometimes you will miss things, but it is okay. That when you are not around your child is growing. They are creating their own thoughts or becoming independent without depending on you.
Self- care - the best way to show up for yourself, your family, or friends is to have ALONE time. If you are constantly around people or doing tasks..you will lose sight of who you are in the shuffle. Finding time to be alone with your thoughts, regain sanity, and spend time grounding yourself will allow you to perform better at work & home
Release the pressure - don’t compare yourself to other moms or do what you are “suppose” to do. Everyone has a different parenting style and people should accept that. You do what works for you best.
What are you struggling with when it comes to mom guilt?
